Grieving comes when we lose a relationship that was special to us. If you are taking the time to read this, you have probably experienced an important loss, perhaps someone special to you has died. This resource is intended to be helpful in sharing information. We hope it will be useful to you through the days, weeks, and months ahead.

When we lose someone special to us, it may feel like life will never be the same again. And in many ways, this is true, it won’t be the same. Yet the process of healthy grieving will lead us to a time when we can feel better again and when we can remember the best things about our loved one and the richness that person added to your life.

What does Healthy Grieving accomplish?

Healthy grieving is an active process. At the same time, we can trust that it is a natural healing process too. Just as you can do certain things to promote healing after an illness or accident, there are things we can do to help ourselves heal through our grief.

What can I do to help myself through this process?

There are a number of choices you can make daily to help yourself through. As you go, be kind to yourself and don’t try to rush yourself.

Are there things that slow down the healing process?

Yes, there are, and some of them are things that give us short term relief, yet they really dont help in the long run.

What can I expect to feel in the days ahead?

It’s really a little bit hard to say. Everyone mourns in their own way and their own time. Telling yourself that you should feel a certain way usually isn’t very helpful. Neither is being frustrated with your feelings or pace. There are some common feelings many of us have at some point when we experience a loss. Shock and disbelief, worry, fear, numbness, sadness, depression, confusion, are all very common possible emotions after a loss. Other potential experiences are anger, irritability, difficulty concentrating, guilt, longing, and helplessness. Surprisingly, there may also be a number of good feelings. You may feel gratitude for the neighbors or friends who reach out in a special way, or for a health care worker who took extra care with your loved one. Relief may be felt if your special person was suffering very much before their death. You may have waves of happy feelings too as you review photos or home movies and remember the things you loved about your special person. All of these feelings, good and bad, can be confusing. And riding the up and down waves can be exhausting. Understanding these feelings are all natural, taking good care of yourself, and believing that you can cope with the feelings will make a great difference.

What other resources can I turn to?
Tasks of Grief- LoCicero.doc33.5 KB
Grief Chart 04.ppt215.5 KB